FRUSTRATED?

Anyone who has ever minded babies or toddlers is acquainted with the notion of “low frustration tolerance.” At the earliest stages of development we aren’t able to meet even our most basic needs. So an angry cry or a frustrated “I can’t do it!” is not only logical, it is necessary as well. Under ideal circumstances the parents gradually encourage the child towards greater levels of independence. However, since frustration is a strategy that “worked” (i.e. – get annoyed-whine/cry-someone else comes and solves the problem), to some degree we are all somewhat loathe to abandon it completely. Nonetheless, it can be a significant roadblock in adult life. Its one thing to need and ask for help when appropriate and another thing altogether to act helpless.

In the field of Psycho-Cybernetics (literally steering one’s own mental programming), the idea of “positive aggression,” is promoted. This is neither childish frustration or an outwardly or inwardly hostile response. Rather it is transforming the energy from dissatisfaction into a steely-eyed kind of determination and optimism, “there is a solution and I AM going to find it.” Whether you are looking to transform your body, conquer the smoking habit or create a more successful life, “positive aggression,” can help you get there.

The reference for this article "The New Psycho-Cybernetics" by Maxwell Maltz and Dan Kennedy is available at: Amazing Books

Relevant Quote: “A pessimist sees the difficulty in everysituation; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.” Sir Winston Churchill.